Of course, I’m aware of the dangers and, yes, I have come unstuck before. There are a number of us using Twitter who were taken in by a fraudster claiming to do good works. I learned the hard way not to take people at gravatar value.
I know about the dangers of meeting up but by following the rules about first meetings in public, etc, I’ve met some smashing people and made some real friends.
But today I had my first really negative experience. I realised the power of the medium and felt quite intimidated by it.
I received a series of what I considered to be fairly “spammy” messages from one particular network (not one of those named above). I tried to unsubscribe from these particular messages but it wasn’t easy and for some reason it didn’t work. In all honesty I don’t think the originator of the messages intended them to be anything but helpful and good natured. But I was very tired of it.
So I sent off a fairly abrasive message and copied it to others. Next I get what I found a fairly sinister message from someone pointing out that by sending such a message I might be damaging my business. Then I get other messages more or less raising questions about my professional judgement and credibility.
I was left feeling very threatened, realising that it wouldn’t be hard for a few words here and a few words there on social networks to be very damaging indeed.
I’ve taken my own actions to remedy this. And as I mention above I don’t think the writer of the original message meant to do anything but good. However I am left chastened and wary.
There is huge power in these tools that we are beginning to take for granted. I, for one, will be much more careful how I engage in future and I will certainly research any network I think of joining quite carefully before signing up.
And I think I need to remember another lesson or two, abrasive messages are much better not sent and, if you were foolish enough to send one, please don’t copy them to others!
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