Values – Prioritizing and Affirming

Values – Prioritizing and Affirming

Values and Why They Are Important – Prioritizing and Affirming Your Own Values

Advice from Wendy Smith; Career Coach and Life Coach; author of The WiseWolf Job Search Pocket Book – order on Amazon

Values – Prioritizing and Affirming – understanding your own values is key to leading a happy and fulfilled life. Knowing them can guide you in deciding the work you want to do and even how you choose a life partner. Understanding them can help you deal with many of the challenges you will meet through life and how to make the best choice in different situations.

Prioritizing and Affirming Your Own Values

Prioritizing your most important values is difficult. You need to look deep inside yourself and be very honest.

When you make a decision you may realise you are having to deal with values that don’t ring true for you. And they may conflict. So, you will have to make a choice.  This is when you need to know which value is more important to you. Without clarity such a conflict can cause great unhappiness.

Write down your most significant values; such as, integrity, freedom, status, financial recognition. But don’t put them in any particular order. Then look at the first two values and ask yourself, “If I could satisfy only one of these, which would I choose?”

It might help to visualize a situation in which you would have to make a choice. For example, compare the values of service and stability. Imagine that you must decide whether to sell your house and risk moving to another country to do work that could fulfill a long-held ambition. Or you can stay in your present job with more limited opportunities but keep your house!  What would you decide?

Keep working through the list, by comparing each value with each one of the rest, until your list is in the correct order.

Reaffirm your values

Check your top-priority values, and make sure they fit with your life and your vision for yourself.

  • Do these values make you feel good about yourself?
  • Are you proud of your top three values?
  • Would you be comfortable and proud to tell your values to people you respect and admire?
  • Do these values represent things you would support, even if your choice isn’t popular.

Now, you need to consider how these values will be reflected in your life at work, at home or in relationships.

When you consider your values in decision-making, you will keep your sense of integrity. Reflecting your values increases your feeling of self-worth and self-confidence.

Making a value-based choice isn’t always be easy. But it is the way to happiness and peace of mind.

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. If you would like help finding a job, with problems at work or at home, or with relationships, contact Wendy. Book your free 30 minute, no obligation, trial coaching session with Wendy Smith now at this Link 

You can find Wendy’s books on Amazon at this link

Values - Prioritizing and Affirming

Understand Your Own Values

Understand Your Own Values

Understand your own values – understanding your own values is key to leading a happy and fulfilled life. Knowing understand your own valuesyour values is important. It can help in deciding the work you want to do. And, for example, in choosing a life partner. Understanding them helps you deal with many challenges you will meet through life. Also, how to make the best choice in difficult situations.

Understand your own values – but what are values?

Values are the important and lasting things you believe about life. They are measures by which you will usually judge yourself and others. When you live your life in accordance with your values you will feel comfortable. And you will feel at peace with yourself. That is if your values are positive and truly your own. If you choose those you think you should have, you won’t truly live according to your own values. This will usually make you feel miserable, guilty or angry. You will not feel fulfilled.

Values are usually fairly stable throughout life. We learn them young from our parents, teachers, our friends and from the media. But not all the values we learn when young are helpful. Times do change! Think, for example, about the value that some people learned when young about the “separate” roles of men and women. Or the values that some people have adopted about particular brands.

When you begin to understand your own values you can begin to make choices about which to hold on to. But also which to let go.

Working with a coach really can help you be clear about your values. And learn to live in harmony with them. Get in touch at the email address below – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.
Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find all her books on Amazon at this link

         

Organisational culture

Organisational culture

Organisational culture – an organisation’s culture is a complex system with a organisational culturemultitude of interrelated processes and mechanisms that keep it humming along.  Sometimes it is hard for the leadership team to really understand the culture of the organisation they lead.

This is true particularly if they follow the traditional pattern and don’t move much from the leadership floor!

The leading team may think they determine the culture when they agree a vision and define the values that go with it.

“Oh yes, we are on a mission and we have a mission statement too! It is all in the hands of our Comm’s Director, so I’m sure people understand what it means and reflect it in our culture!”

Really? Unless those vision and mission statements are truly reinforced throughout the organization, they can be meaningless in terms of the culture.

So, do you understand your organisational culture. How do you know what is happening where you are? Here are a few questions for you to think about;

  • Are your organisation’s vision and values reflected in performance reviews and training programmes?
  • What about you financial reward systems? Do they reinforce them?
  • How about memos and communications? Do they highlight what the leadership team thinks are important.
  • What about management actions? For example, are more junior promotions for people who toe the line? Or are they for people who go out on a limb to pursue your vision?

In reality, in most organisations, the culture develops unconsciously and organically. It creates a system that, while not always ideal, does work.

Changing an organisational culture is a real challenge!

It is hard to do without losing the good things you have now. Of course, that assumes that as a leadership team, you are clear about what good things you do have now!

If you are serious about your vision. And you really want to see your values in practice. Then you may have some hard work ahead!

But, of course, until you understand the culture you have now, you won’t know what you need to do. Will you?

Time to start asking some questions, I think!

Working with an executive coach really can help you get your organisation to perform well. Why not take advantage of my offer of a free half hour coaching session to find out how I can help.

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organizational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find her books on Amazon at this link

         

Values and Why They Are Important Part 2 Determine your own values.

Values and Why They Are Important Part 2 Determine your own values.

Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home

This is second post in a short series on values. The first post considered what values and why are they important.

Understanding your own values is key to leading a happy and fulfilled life.  Knowing them can guide you in deciding the work you want to do and even how you choose a life partner. Understanding them can help you deal with many of the challenges you will meet through life and how to make the best choice in different situations.

Defining Your Own Values

Defining your own values helps you discover what’s truly important to you.

A good way to to begin to do this is to look back on your life. Now, identify when you felt really good, and really confident that you were making good choices. Then identify the times when you were happiest

Find examples from both your personal/family life and your career. This will give you a balanced view.

Think about what you were you doing and who you were with. What other factors contributed to your happiness?

Think about the times when you were most proud. Why were you proud? What factors contributed to your feelings of pride?

When did you feel most fulfilled and satisfied?

Again, use both work and personal examples.

Now think about the words you would associate with your experience of happiness, pride, and fulfilment.

Aim for about 10 to 15 keywords similar to those on this list below to describe what you valued about the experience

Next time we’ll think about which values are most important to you. You will find the next post at this link on 25/02/14 http://wisewolftalking.com/2014/02/25/values-and-why-they-are-important-part-3-prioritizing-and-affirming-your-own-values/

Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

 

Values, Authenticity and Your Career

Values, Authenticity and Your Career

Advice from Wendy Smith; Life and Career Coach and author of The WiseWolf Job Search Pocket Book – Wendy’s books on Amazon

Values, Authenticity and Your Career – I looked up a dictionary definition of authenticity and it referred to being worthy of trust, reliance or belief; not counterfeit or copied.

An important part of my work as a coach, whether as a career coach and as a life coach, is to get clients to identify and reflect on their own, personal, values. And reflecting on my personal values is something I do periodically. To live authentically is to live in accord with your own values.

Of course, getting to know your own values can be quite hard work.

Many of us seem to have imbibed values from others, mainly from our parents, when we were very young. They are not necessarily things that we have thought that much about. They are just the “rules” we try to live by and we usually assume that everyone else shares them.

Values, Authenticity and Your Career – Values vary widely

In reality, values can vary very widely between cultures and even quite a lot between people within the same culture.

Think about the difference in values between someone focussed on making as much money as possible, as quickly as they can, so that their children can have the best opportunities that money can buy. Then think about those sacrificing to help others in the world’s disasters and emergencies. Both are doing what they think is right according to their own values. And in a modern “mixed” economy, we need them both.

Knowing your own values is important

Knowing your own values is important if you want to live a happy and fulfilled life.

But they do need to be your own values. You don’t have to accept all you have inherited. In fact, just accepting them without reflection can lead to much unhappiness. Think about the price put on physical beauty in our society and some of the misery to which it has led.

You have choice to make about the values by which you live your life.

Once you have decided what your values are going to be, you may have some work to do to shake off some of the values that you inherited. You need to do this, if you are not to live in conflict with yourself. Sometimes working with a life coach can help you do the work necessary to make the change.

Values and your career

So what has this to do with your career?

Well, if you wish to feel happy and fulfilled in your work, where and how you work needs to be in harmony with your values. It can mean making some hard choices. But it will mean your career is on a solid foundation for success and you can be truly authentic in all parts of your life; at work as well as at home.

Resources to help your job search and career development

In the job market, there are always lots of useful techniques to learn or to refresh. As a career coach and life coach there are lots of ways I can support your job search and your career development. And from writing a modern CV to wooing at the interview, you’ll find lots of tips in my handy little pocket-book.

Stress-free Job Search
A concise and practical little workbook. For all who have the courage to go out and learn the new skills necessary to find a job now.

A concise and practical little work book, it is for all who have the courage to go out and learn the new skills necessary to find a job now.

Find this and my other books on my Amazon page at this link; http://ow.ly/BRSAL

Remember working with a career coach can really help both  job search and career resilience. Get in touch at the Facing a mid-career dilemmaemail address below – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book your free 30 minute, no obligation, trial coaching session with Wendy Smith now at this Link 

Values, Authenticity and Your Career

Values, Authenticity and Your Career

Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work

I looked up a dictionary definition of authenticity and it referred to being worthy of trust, reliance or belief; not counterfeit or copied.

An important part of my work as a coach, whether as a career coach or as a life coach, is to get clients to identify and reflect on their own, personal, values. And reflecting on my personal values is something I do periodically. To live authentically is to live in accord with your own values.

Of course, getting to know your own values can be quite hard work.

Many of us seem to have imbibed values from others, mainly from our parents, when we were very young. They are not necessarily things that we have thought that much about. They are just the “rules” we try to live by and we usually assume that everyone else shares them.

Values vary widely

In reality, values can vary very widely between cultures and even quite a lot between people within the same culture.

Think about the difference in values between someone focussed on making as much money as possible, as quickly as they can, so that their children can have the best opportunities that money can buy. Then think about those sacrificing to help others in the world’s disasters and emergencies. Both are doing what they think is right according to their own values. And in a modern “mixed” economy, we need them both.

Knowing your own values is important

Knowing your own values is important if you want to live a happy and fulfilled life.

But they do need to be your own values. You don’t have to accept all you have inherited. In fact, just accepting them without reflection can lead to much unhappiness. Think about the price put on physical beauty in our society and some of the misery to which it has led.

You have choice to make about the values by which you live your life.

Once you have decided what your values are going to be, you may have some work to do to shake off some of the values that you inherited. You need to do this, if you are not to live in conflict with yourself. Sometimes working with a life coach can help you do the work necessary to make the change.

Values and your career

So what has this to do with your career?

Well, if you wish to feel happy and fulfilled in your work, where and how you work needs to be in harmony with your values. It can mean making some hard choices. But it does mean your career is on a solid foundation for success and you can be truly authentic in all parts of your life; at work as well as at home.

Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

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Defining Your Value in the Workplace By Ilchi Lee

Defining Your Value in the Workplace By Ilchi Lee 

Today we are privileged to have a guest post from the well known author and educator, Ilchi Lee.  Ilchi Lee has spent nearly three decades helping people create better lives for themselves.

Since you are here looking for ideas on finding a job or for keeping the one you have, it’s helpful to think first about what value you bring to your workplace. I think the value you bring to your job or any endeavor comes from your true value.

Sometimes we can get lost in believing that other people will give us clues that let us know how well we “measure up” when compared to others. We absent-mindedly use these clues to decide our value in the workplace and the world. But, what if you decided that the opinion of others is not in favor of you? You could easily become less efficient and less dedicated to your job or your life. At work, this would have a negative impact for you and for the company that pays you to think on their behalf for their business. And in life, it could certainly demotivate you.

From my own early experiences I discovered that my true value did not depend on the evaluation of others. This lesson did not come easily at first, and I searched my own creativity for ideas that would let me experience my own value in this world. What I discovered was, when my idea helped others to discover a greater vision for the community and for other individuals is when I knew I had true value and purpose here. And this is true for you!

It can be easy to think of ourselves as separate from others. This is what allows us to imagine their opinions and consider them as a measure for how to value ourselves. However, if we can understand the way that energy is present in all things, we realize that we are not so separate after all! From this perspective, we can define our own value for ourselves by initiating and participating in efforts that benefit others and are for the greater good.

Operating with this awareness, you will radiate a quality of energy that communicates apart from your resume and beyond the words spoken in your interview that cannot be mistaken. Whether we are talking about the company, or the world, this is where your true value lies.

Byline:

Ilchi Lee is the author of 36 books including The Call of Sedona: Journey of the Heart, a New York Times bestseller, and his latest, Change: Realizing Your Greatest Potential. A visionary and educator, he has spent nearly three decades helping people create better lives for themselves. Lee has created Dahn Yoga, Brain Education, and hundreds of other wellness programs and methods. A model for the self-improvement he teaches, Ilchi Lee is continually changing and continually creative. Find articles and videos based on his methods at http://www.ChangeYourEnergy.com. Learn more about Ilchi Lee at http://www.ilchi.com.

Job Search and Personal Values

Job Search and Personal Values

Sometimes these days job search seems to take such a long time that when you do find something that looks a good in terms of role, other considerations go out of the window. This can be dangerous.

So you’ve seen this advert for a wonderful job. It is just what you have been looking for the last three months.

It’s a global organization that is doing well in the current market and the part of the organization you are considering is expanding. You have the skills, knowledge and experience they are asking for.

So where is that doubt at the back of your mind coming from – why have you got reservations? Surely at this point you can’t afford not to go for it?

Please pause for a moment and take a few deep breaths. Now sit quietly and think about what is really troubling you. Might it by any chance be about fitting in?

You have been around long enough to know that getting a job is usually about more than simply demonstrating the right competencies. You know there will be some unwritten rules they will apply that have to do with what they regard as your “organizational fit!” Note; I’m not talking here about discrimination on grounds of race or sex, although I do think age discrimination is often an element.

This is about your compatibility and how their conception of the organization’s values and their mode of operation will influence the panel. You know that scrutiny at job interviews and possibly an assessment centre is going to give them lots of opportunity to find out about you and your values, and whether they think you are right for them. And of course if that doesn’t provide all they need what about the reference checks?

How can you prepare to make to make the most of the opportunity and get that job? Well, in my view you, unless you are an actor at Oscar standard, it really isn’t wise to try to fake it! Nor do I think faking it is ethical – but that is something for you to think about.

But, as you are a wise job seeker, you will be researching the company before you get to interview stage. You will look at what they stand for and how they interact with the environment outside the organization. You can also find out something about their operating model and how they treat their staff – this is where having a wide network of contacts is a real advantage.

Then spend some time thinking about what you need to help you succeed in a job. Most of us need to have some belief in an organization’s purpose and vision to feel comfortable. Moral compass sounds a very old fashioned expression but it really does matter that you understand your own values and what you stand for. Is your moral compass compatible with theirs? If not, what is working with them going to do your self esteem?

Do you now think this is truly a good fit! Has that uncomfortable feeling gone away or got stronger? Think very seriously about how much you want this particular job and what it really means to you! Clashing values can lead to lots of frustration on both sides.

When you have made your assessment and committed to the interview, think about how to articulate who you are and what you stand for – how to make your values clear in what you say.

Wendy Mason is the The Career Coach – helping you to find fresh perspectives on your Job Search and Career. She helps you work towards your goals and aspirations, in a way that fits in with both work and home life. Email her at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com,  find her on Skype at wendymason14, or call +44 (0) 2081239146 (02081239146 for UK callers) or +1 262 317 9016 if you are in the US.

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Personality Type

Personality type

Career Development. Understanding your Personality Type, Values, Interests

This is an interesting and informative introduction from Stevie Pocket about the importance of understanding values, personality type and skills for your Career Development.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach
Wendy Smith, Principal Coach, WiseWolf Life and Career Coaching

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find all her books on Amazon at this link

         

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