Confidence and Success at Work

Confidence and Success at Work

A very long time ago, one of my mentors, and I was lucky to be blessed with good mentors, told me not to let an opportunity slip through my fingers because of lack of confidence.

I didn’t really take what he said fully on board at the time. But, my word, I have thought of those words so often recently. I would say lack of confidence is the number one factor that I have seen hold people back from success at work.

Now, don’t let us kid ourselves here. I don’t mean that boundless confidence will win you a job for which you are obviously not fitted. I have seen that happen sometimes, though, as I expect you have. But I wouldn’t rely on it. You really do need to be able to do the job and you need to do your home work during the recruitment process.

But, however good you are, if you are full of reservations and doubts, then I believe you are very unlikely to get that new job or that promotion.

Having said that, lots of people don’t think about taking action to maintain or strengthen their self-confidence. Many seem to believe confidence is no more than gift and in part that is true. There are people who are born with it and others have early experiences that strengthen theirs. But, whoever you are, regardless of age, there is action you can take to strengthen your confidence and hence your chance of success at work. Time to do something, perhaps.

Don’t forget I offer a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype to members of this group.

I wish all those starting out on, or a continuing, a job search this week every success.

Warm regards


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Emotional Intelligence and Your Job Search

Using emotional intelligence really can help you succeed in your job search.

But what is emotional intelligence, and why is it that success in life sometimes seems unrelated to intelligence and how hard you are prepared to work?

It has been said that your IQ can land you a job but your lack of EQ (Emotional Intelligence) can get you fired. However, demonstrating emotional and social intelligence is becoming more and more important in your job search.

Many more recruiters and employers now appreciate that emotional intelligence and social intelligence are great determinants of the success you are likely to achieve at work.  A study from Virginia Commonwealth University  has shown that “high emotional intelligence does have a relationship to strong job performance  — in short, emotionally intelligent people make better workers.”  As a result, companies like Microsoft and Deutsche Bank now use EQ tests in their recruitment processes.

Derren Thompson, Manager, Diversity Recruiting for Sodexo, one of the largest services companies in the world reminds readers in their  blog that the “businesses that will succeed in the 21st century will be the ones that allow employees to bring the whole of their intelligence into the work force – their emotional and intellectual self. Not only does this impact morale, but productivity increases, too.”

Recognizing the significance of this, means you can use emotional intelligence to help you succeed in your job search.

But what is emotional intelligence?

In 1996 Daniel Goleman wrote his groundbreaking book “Emotional Intelligence“. His exhaustive research had confirmed that success in life is based more on our ability to manage our emotions than on our intellectual capability or our physical strength.

According to Howard Gardner, the influential Harvard theorist, “Your EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient) is the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them and how to work cooperatively with them,”

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, assess, and manage your own emotions, the emotions of others and also group emotions. It can also be a way of engaging with others that draws them to you.

EQ requires four capabilities;

  1. Self-awareness,
  2. Self-management,
  3. Social awareness
  4. Relationship management.

But EQ can do more for you in your job search than just impress a potential employer, it can help you decide what kind of role to go for.

One way to begin is to ask yourself two questions:

  • First, when do you feel excited or curious? This will help you be clear about your interests and passions.
  • Second,  work out what makes you upset, depressed and angry, and why? This helps you identify your core values and that often makes the difference in whether a job or career will be the right fit for you.

Understanding your emotions can also help you maintain your optimism and cope with stress during a long job search – it can help you stay positive while you find the right role for you.

If you would like to know more about emotional intelligence and how it can help you at work as a manager and leader, go to our sister site WiseWolf Talking– Leadership, Management, Career and Personal Development.  If you would like to know what emotional intelligence might mean for you in your life outside work then please visit WiseWolf’s Your Happiness Factor.

If you would like to read Dr Goleman’s book click on the picture link below and if you would like to try out an EQ test try this link

Wendy Mason is a Life and Career Coach.  She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work and to change career. You can email her or ring ++44(0)2084610114