A boss who panics

A boss who panics

Problems at work: tip on how to work with a boss who panics

Advice from Wendy Smith; Career Coach and author of “How to Get On With the Boss” – order on Amazon

A boss who panics – most people I know have worked for a boss who was subject to panic. Or at least in their view, the boss was someone subject to panic. Managers are human and being human they don’t always behave well. Good managers recognize this in themselves. They check how they are behaving and acknowledge when they need to make a change. Some managers do not. And for a number, panicking can become a habit, particularly if they feel insecure or lack confidence.

So, how should you respond?

Here are some tips on how to deal with a boss who panics.

1. Don’t join in the panic, but do show you want to help.
2. Get as much information as you can about the issue.
3. Make your own assessment – is this really is as urgent or as important as your boss is suggesting?
4. Be clear about priorities for the organization, your team and your role, as well as for key clients.
5. Are you the person best placed to handle the issue? If so, can you persuade your boss to delegate the task to you with occasional reports on progress?
6. Show you are willing to help.  Even if the issue isn’t for you, show you are willing to help and move things forward.
7. Agree clear arrangements for reporting back with your boss. Those reports may have to be more frequent than you would choose. But an agreed reporting procedure should reassure your boss and give you the space you need to complete the task.
8. Shield your team – if you are a manager yourself, then try to shield your team from the effects of your boss’s panic.
9. Reassure your boss – above all seek to reassure your boss and take responsibility for dealing with the issue if you can
10. Post action analysis – after dealing with the immediate problem, try to work out why your boss is responding in this way. Then, if you can, offer support, show loyalty and give reassurance.
11. Is the behavior really disrupting the team?  Do you have a good relationship with boss? Then afterwards try to feed back to you boss how this is affecting others and the efficiency of the group. But choose your moment with care. Don’t do it when they are feeling panicked. Offer to work with them to introduce any changes that will make them feel more comfortable.
12. If you don’t get on well with the boss, consider your options.  Consider seriously whether this job is really worth suffering the long-term effects of stress which are usually the result.

I offer a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype that help you deal with your boss. Here is the booking link –  Book a half hour trial 

Other resources for people with problem bosses

As a coach I work with lots of people who have problems with their boss. So I wrote a little book to help them. You can help your boss help you – don’t be made unhappy, suffer stress and lose confidence because you cannot get on with the person in charge. Poor relationships at work can damage life at home as well as your career. My book can help.

Remember working with a career coach can really help you feel happier at work.

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book your free 30 minute, no obligation, trial coaching session with Wendy Smith now at this Link 

 

Your boss doesn’t talk to you

Your boss doesn’t talk to you

Advice from Wendy Smith; Career Coach and author of How To Get On With The Boss – order on Amazon

Your boss doesn’t talk to you! So you’ve done the new job for a while now. And you think you are doing OK. In fact you think you are doing better than OK.

But your boss gives you no sign of what she thinks about your performance. She comes in everyday, wishes you good morning and then disappears into her office. She’s quite pleasant and there is no suggestion that there is a problem, you just need to know what she really thinks about what you are doing.

This situation can feel totally demoralising and you begin to have all kinds of doubts. What can you do?

Well, you have to grasp the nettle and ask for the feedback that isn’t being volunteered.

First, gather your own evidence about your performance, such as, feedback from customers. Then, think about the questions you want to ask and how you are going to ask them; you don’t want to alienate your boss.

Now ask your boss for some time to talk. Choose your moment carefully – don’t ask when the boss is under pressure or about to go to an important meeting. Make sure you get the appointment in the boss’s diary and that you get enough time for a proper discussion. Ideally, you need at least 30 minutes – again not before or immediately after an event on which your boss is going to want to concentrate.

At the meeting make sure you emphasize that you want to take care of your boss’s interests as well as your own. You want to make sure that you are doing the job the boss wants you to do. Avoid getting into arguments or being confrontational. Use the evidence you have collected if you face any criticism you consider unjustified.

I expect you will be pleasantly surprised and that your boss is happy with what you’re doing. You just need to remind them that that is something you need to be told. I am sure all is well but you won’t know that for sure until you ask. Good luck.

Other resources for people with problem bosses

As a coach I work with lots of people who have problems with their boss. So I wrote a little book to help them. You can help your boss help you – don’t be made unhappy, suffer stress and lose confidence because you cannot get on with the person in charge. Poor relationships at work can damage life at home as well as your career. My book can help.

Remember working with a career coach can really help you feel happier at work. Get in touch at the Facing a mid-career dilemmaemail address below – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book your free 30 minute, no obligation, trial coaching session with Wendy Smith now at this Link 

 

Getting on With The Boss

Getting on With The Boss

Wendy Mason Career Coach and author of The WiseWolf Job Search Pocket Book; How to Win Friends and Influence Recruiters – pre-order on Amazon

So many people I work with or meet raise this as an issue.  So I’m returning to it again.

I don’t know anyone who at some point in their professional life hasn’t had some worries about establishing a good working relationship with their manager.

And remember folks that is what it is about; a good working relationship.

You don’t have to be best friends. You just need to establish a relationship that allows you to work constructively with each other.

With this relationship, as with others, at the heart lies a need for good communication. The reality is that not all managers are blessed with good communication skills. With some managers, they have the skills but, for one reason or another, are not choosing to use them effectively.

So, as a worker in a silent vacuum, you try to make sense of what is going on.

The super confident may well assume; “Well I must be doing well or she/he would say something.” But many of us are less than super confident, particularly when starting a new job. We assume no news is bad news. We may even start to interpret body language, and how the boss behaves towards others, as sending some kind of message for us. Often our interpretation and our assumptions are wrong.

If your manager has not opened up communication with you, then you need to open up communication with them.

First, take some time out to think about what you want to ask and what information you require to do your job well. Then think how to put your requests into words. Now, you are ready to book some time in your manager’s diary.

Pick a time when they are likely to be fresh but not immediately after they arrive in the office and need to check their in-tray. You don’t want them distracted by emails rather than listening to you. Always open the conversation by referring to some positive points about your job and the organization. Then, when you have their attention, present your points clearly but without personal criticism. Make sure they know that you appreciate how busy they are and make sure you thank them for their time.

Follow up by suggesting you have regular, but not necessarily frequent, touchdown meetings.

I am sure that if you prepare properly, you will handle this well and both you and your boss will be pleased you took the initiative.

I wish all those starting out on or a continuing a job search this week every success.

If you are thinking about coaching, and we coaches really can add value to your job search, I would love to talk to you.

Warm regards

Wendy
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