It is important for you to realize that there is not one “standard” pattern of reaction to the extreme stress of traumatic experiences. Some people respond immediately, while others have delayed reactions — sometimes months or even years later. Some have adverse effects for a long period of time, while others recover rather quickly.
Now is not the time to brood or become that couch potato. Get up, review, revise, refresh and get out there! Set yourself some new goals and move forward, there are still opportunities there – it is time to look in some new places.
Coping with life’s problems successfully needs you to have realistic expectations. Psychologists call these expectations, and the judgements you make based on them, ‘appraisals’. Things that happen to us aren’t a problem unless we judge them to
By understanding how to help influence people to develop a positive mental assessment of their abilities, it is possible for us to create work environments that provide the necessary feedback and support for individuals. This should allow more people to develop high levels of self-efficacy that will translate into increased productivity.
The Team Leader needs to recognize stress and burnout, and manage the team so that no undue stress is put on any particular individual. Judging this, and then getting the resources you need to prevent harm to your team, can be difficult. Stress and burnout are different. And in a long standing change team, you may well see symptoms of impending burnout.
Mood contagion is the automatic and unconscious transfer of mood between individuals. Intense moods are more likely to be transferred. Joy or distress are more likely to be passed on than calmness. Leaders probably have an even greater impact on their group mood. This is because of their importance to the organization.
Changes in life like redundancy affect us all deeply. They change us and they change our relationships particularly with out partners.. Acknowledge the change for both of you and that both of you are suffering loss. It is not about whose loss is greater. If you can, start to work for and not against each other! You can be a team again, I’m sure!
I believe life is largely what you make it, but you do have to make the right choices if you are going to feel fulfilled. There is much to be said for spending time to work our where you go from here!