Let me tell your fortune – I'll tell you your life's purpose!

I believe life is largely what you make it, but you do have to make the right choices if you are going to feel fulfilled. There is much to be said for spending time to work our where you go from here!

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When going through personal transition, you can spend lots of time thinking about what you are going to do next and where you are going in life. A classic question in these circumstances is,  “Where would you like to be in five years time?”

In order to answer that question we often end up thinking; “Well what is it it all about any way?”

This is usually closely followed by; “What am I here for?”

I found a website that promised a method for answering this question in 20 minutes – and no I’m not going to give you a link to it for reasons which I’ll explain later.

But basically this is what that website advised you to do:

  1. Take out a blank sheet of paper or open up a word processor where you can type.
  2. Write at the top, “What is my true purpose in life?”
  3. Write an answer (any answer) that pops into your head. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence. A short phrase is fine.
  4. Repeat step 3 until you write the answer that makes you cry. This is your purpose.

That’s it.

Simple isn’t it!

It went on to say it will take “15-20 minutes to clear your head of all the clutter and the social conditioning about what you think your purpose in life is. The false answers will come from your mind and your memories. But when the true answer finally arrives, it will feel like it’s coming to you from a different source entirely.”

Oh how I wish it could be that easy and oh dear how dangerous I think that particular piece of advice could be!

Suppose you spent your twenty minutes and then came up with a view that would mean a huge life change and you acted upon it with no further consideration.  Wouldn’t that be a bit risky?

But that advice is by no means as potentially damaging to the vulnerable as that below

I was told about this recently.

A friend of mine follows astrology columns, largely for fun – she enjoys the positive and tries head to ignore the negative.  But recently she took up an offer from an astrology service to tell her, her life purpose.  What she got back would have been devastating for some.

It claimed that the unhappiness she was suffering in this life was all the result of some terrible deed she had done in a past life.  It claimed her actions had resulted in the death of many and that she needed to spend the rest of this life in penance and good deeds.

Luckily she is a healthy well-balanced and positive person who could laugh off this kind of advice and determine not to try it again.  But I know others for whom it would have been disastrous!

Anyway, I’m not convinced we have an individual life purpose!

I believe life is largely what you make it, but you do have to make the right choices if you are going to feel fulfilled.  There is much to be said for going through some of the steps recommended above but with a few changes.

  1. Take out a blank sheet of paper or open up a word processor where you can type.
  2. Write at the top, “What do I want do with my life – where could I go from here?”
  3. Write all the answers that come into you head in say 20 minutes. They don’t have to be complete sentences. A short phrase is fine.
  4. Now spend the next day thinking about your answers and in 24 hours go through your list again to delete, amend, add to and prioritize.

So now you have a list – what does it mean for you?

If it makes sense, act on it! But only if it makes real sense for you in your life and in you circumstances.  I’m all for being open minded about possibilities though!

And don’t leave it at that, in a week’s time review it again.

Then each month from now on take up your list and see if it still makes sense.

I suspect over time your wishes and your priorities will change as your life evolves and so it should! Life, like the world itself, is in a constant state of change and sadly one answer is unlikely to be good for all time.

The lesson in all this is to be very careful about the advice you follow.

There is so much out there now that you need to make very careful choices about what you take seriously.

And I’m not sure that I would take too seriously any website that offers to send you the answers to life’s deepest mysteries in return for £20 and your credit card details.

I’ve sounded very cynical above about doing work on your life purpose.  But you may have experienced something that worked really well for you and made a huge difference to your life.  If so I would love to hear from you.

Wendy Mason works as a consultant, business coach and blogger. Adept at problem solving, she is a great person to bring in when that one thing you thought was straightforward turns out not to be! If you have a problem talk to Wendy – she can help you – email her atwendymason@wisewolfconsulting.com or ring ++44(0)7867681439