Energy For Your Job Search

Energy For Your Job Search

Advice from Wendy Smith; Career Coach and author of The WiseWolf Job Search Pocket Book – Wendy’s books on Amazon

You need energy for your job search – just as you do to complete any other project in your work life. It is all too easy when you are working from home – for job search as at other times – to lose the habits that help you stay healthy.

Energy for your job search; the basics

Most of us need seven or eight hours of good quality sleep to perform at our best. Sometimes I ask clients to keep a sleep diary so they can work out exactly how much sleep they need. They record the hours they slept and how the felt the next day. If you try it, you can pretty quickly work out what is the best sleep for you. Make sure your bedroom is comfortable, dark enough and quiet – this really isn’t the place for computers and televisions.

As your mother always told you; eat a good breakfast that sets up your energy levels for the day. Try making porridge and not buying packaged cereals full of sugar and add fruit to the tray.

Grazing on small, frequent meals is better for your system than eating large meals with a long break in between. Eat Energy For Your Job Searchunrefined complex carbohydrates like whole wheat with every meal. Cut back on tea, coffee, chocolate and canned drinks and drink lots of water to feel really good.

Make sure you get out of the house and into the fresh air each day. And have an exercise routine, even if it is just regular walking. A half hour walk each day will help to keep you healthy. Always take medical advice before starting a vigorous new exercise routine; perhaps this may be the time to start swimming again – it is great exercise and very inexpensive.

Other resources to help your job search

In the job market, there are always lots of useful techniques to learn or to refresh. From writing a modern CV to wooing at the interview, you’ll find lots of tips in my handy little pocket-book.

Stress-free Job Search
A concise and practical little workbook. For all who have the courage to go out and learn the new skills necessary to find a job now.

A concise and practical little work book, it is for all who have the courage to go out and learn the new skills necessary to find a job now.

Find this and my other books on my Amazon page at this link; http://ow.ly/BRSAL

Remember working with a career coach can really help both  job search and career resilience. Get in touch at the Facing a mid-career dilemmaemail address below – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book your free 30 minute, no obligation, trial coaching session with Wendy Smith now at this Link 

Energy Drainers

Energy Drainers

Making a change – those who drain your energy

Energy drainers – if you are involved with any kind of change you will find it drains your energy. Energy will drain as you come to terms with new situations. energy drainersand deal with confusion. You will have to deal as well with anxiety – your own, and other people’s.  You will find yourself giving out lots of your energy in support of others.  But some people seem to take just a little too much – more than you can afford to give if you are going to stay fit for the task ahead.

We all feel insecure in the middle of change but energy drainers are usually people who are insecure and negative in their everyday life. Quite often they find it difficult to tolerate their own company. You may find people like this start to depend upon you to help them make all kinds of relatively simple life decisions.  They may phone or text you several times a day on any pretext – they can eat you as well as your time and sap your life force!

Energy drainers don’t know how to tap into their personal energy reserves to survive

Very often these sad people are stuck in “Survival Mode.”  They don’t know how to tap into their personal energy reserves to survive. Like children, they haven’t accepted responsibility for their own lives. But they find many ways, including emotional blackmail,  to persuade you to give them the emotional support  and the reassurance they need.  Life is frightening and they are very scared indeed!

We all know people like this. They might be old friends, family or work colleagues. You want to help but their needs are overwhelming.

So, what do you do?

Keep in mind that you may need to conserve your energy to manage a complex change.  If they are part of the change, you are certainly not going to be in a position to cut them out of your life.  Anyway, at the end of the day, most of us would actually like to be in a place to help.

The stance you take depends upon your relationship with the person and the level of your energy reserves. However, your first responsibility is to yourself. You, too, may have to adopt a “Survival Mode” attitude.

It is certainly much easier to deal with someone who is an acquaintance or a work colleague. You have no personal commitment to them and you have every right to say goodbye when you finish work.

Dealing with energy drainers

Always try to stay in a neutral space when talking to them.  Give neutral responses and try not to get drawn into their, or your, emotions.  When you deal with them, imagine you are wearing a breastplate to defend your energy – withhold your energy behind your breastplate. Deliver a neutral, and deliberately, low energy response. Offer no more and no less than is necessary to carry out the transaction.

As a personal survival technique, this approach is also applicable for family and old friends. However, you may choose to take a more compassionate and supportive stance by demonstrating “tough love.” Your goal here is to move them on from negative to positive. You want to move them back into using their own energy resources. In this way, you can help them to become self-sufficient.  Get them to think through their own options – to make choices and plan.  When they do so give them lots of quiet praise – move them on from whining to thinking about concrete ways they can help themselves!

Dealing with emotional blackmail

Be aware, though, that energy drainers will resort to many forms of subtle emotional blackmail to get access to your energy. Don’t let them! Let them know, through your actions, that your energy is no longer accessible to them. Encourage them to make decisions on their own and to enjoy their own company by simply not being available: physically or emotionally.

It will not be easy for you or them. You are breaking established patterns of behaviour and setting a new precedent. But eventually a new dynamic should be established. They should begin to take responsibility for their own life and their own decisions.

You may have to support them through a change as part of your role but do so in a managed way! With friends and family, if they will not take action, success will be impossible. So recognise when you have banged your head once too often against that proverbial brick. It may be the wisest step is simply to “let go.”

If you need help dealing with your energy drainer, please get in touch

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach
Wendy Smith, Principal Coach, WiseWolf Life and Career Coaching

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find all her books on Amazon at this link

         

 

Confidence tips

Confidence tips

Confidence tips

Five Tips to Help You Feel More Confident

Confidence tips – having a healthy amount of self-esteem and self-confidence is good for us. It helps to make life happier and more successful. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities goes a long way. This is whether you’re facing a tough decision, adapting to a new situation or facing major change. Here are some confidence tips to help build your self-esteem.

Acknowledge your humanity

Remember no one is perfect and no one can do everything. And to be less than perfect is to be human. You are you and you are good enough as you are! It may not always seem this way, but it’s true. So if you are not the chief executive or a millionaire – that’ is OK! You have a personality and a perspective on the world that’s all your own and completely valuable. That doesn’t mean though that you stop wanting to grow and develop as a human being!

Stop criticising yourself.

This is one of the things that stop us achieving our goals and feeling good about ourselves. You are a mixture of strengths and weaknesses just like everyone else. Concentrate on the good bits! If you don’t do well at a particular project or task the first time (or even the second time), it doesn’t mean that you never will. Perhaps you weren’t prepared or the time simply wasn’t right. It doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you or that you’ll never succeed. It is natural to feel disappointed but don’t get hooked on it. Let it go and move on. You’ll be that much closer to achieving what you want if you do.

Understand your strengths

Everybody’s good at something, and many people are good at quite a few things. Even if you don’t have a talent or strength that you’re aware of, you probably have some interests you can develop into strengths. Make a list of a few things you’re good at! Add a few things you’re interested in and would like to be better at. Share this list with someone you like and trust. This is a good exercise to do with a partner who also wants to work on their confidence. They can probably help you find other things you’re good at, too. You can help each other plan for developing skills and interests.

Celebrate the good things

Notice all the good things you do in a day even the small things. Everything – the favour you do for a friend – the help you give a relative – it’s all good. Notice it and give yourself a big pat on the back. Get hooked on feeling good about what you achieve. In time it will become a habit. You could always keep a celebration journal to reflect on when you are feeling down. Don’t be afraid to treat yourself when you do something good.

Above all, stay relaxed

Staying relaxed in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff. It is a good frame of mind to be in when taking a close look at the things you’re not so good at.  There are lots of simple relaxation techniques around that can help – simple breathing exercises are easy to learn and really do help. Try this link. Learn a technique and use it whenever you are faced with any kind of threat to your confidence.

I hope you have enjoyed these confidence tips and that you will find them useful. I  work with many clients to raise their confidence and become happier people at work and at home. I would be very happy to talk to you about how I can help.

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find all her books on Amazon at this link

         

How to look confident

How to look confident

Tips To Help You Look Confident

Why is looking confident important?

How to look confident – if you want people to have confidence in you,  you need How to look confidentto look confident. If you want people to be drawn to you, you need to look confident! It is even more important than looking good or being good at what you do! That might seem a little unfair but in the real world it is only too true!

So, do you look confident?

If I met you for the first time, what would I see and what would I hear?  What would your body language tell me?  Would I want to get to know you better? Would I have confidence in your ability to do that job I might have available? Or, would I buy that product or service from you?
The need for confidence permeates all parts of our lives. People like others who are confident as friends and potential partners.
When it comes to appearing confident, remember that over 70% of our communication is transmitted by our body language. So, while you are working to increase your  confidence, how do you change your body language to make you look confident?  Here are some tips to help:

Six Tips To Help You Look Confident

      1. Start with your feet.  Stand with them at least 12 inches apart and have your weight distributed evenly between them. Plant the soles of your feet firmly and evenly on the ground. Let them give a firm support to the rest of your body. Now, you are rooted but not rooted to the spot! Don’t lock your knees – instead keep them soft and very slightly flexed.
      2. Let you spine be proud. Your spine protects and supports your internal organs! Feel your spine lifting you to the sky – that is what it is there for!  Lift your upper body out of your pelvis and stand upright.  Feel yourself “lengthening your spine” – stand proud!  Try thinking of a piece of string attached to the top of your head gently pulling upwards. But don’t stand rigidly – you are not a soldier on parade.
      3. Keep your shoulders relaxed. Let them drop – don’t lift them high. The shoulders and neck often show how tense we are – let yours relax.
      4. Let your shoulders widen rather than pull back. Open your chest up so that you can breathe freely.  That in itself will make you feel more relaxed.
      5. Smile. Work on learning to smile naturally at home. Practice some affirmations giving yourself some positive messages, for example; “relax and smile”, “calm and smile”, “wonderful people make me smile.” Bring that smile to your eyes and let it broaden to fill your whole body and mind. Practice sensing how it feels.  Now when you meet other people say quietly to your self; “these are the wonderful people who make me smile.” Find yourself smiling.
      6. Change your focus. When we go into a new situation if we lack confidence, we tend to focus on ourselves and how we feel. You can change your focus to the people about you. Start to be really interested in them rather than how you are feeling. You will seem more approachable and look more confident.

Finding help

Practice my tips above nd you will be surprised at the effect.  You may well find yourself, not just looking more confident, but feeling more confident too.  It helps to work with a coach of course and I just happen to be a qualified confidence coach – so feel free to get in touch!

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find her books on Amazon at this link

         

Staying Fit To Manage

Staying Fit To Manage

Staying Fit To Manage – what does that really mean?

Well, managing people is never something to be taken lightly.  Being responsible for other people requires something beyond basic competence, you need to be motivated, alert and committed to the goals  of your group.  Motivation and alertness require energy and in order to stay energetic you need to be fit in both mind and body. That means staying fit to manage

Too many managers feel too tired and stressed out to stay fit. But that is something of a vicious circle because  feeling too tired to eat properly or to take exercise in turn leads to having even less energy.  On top of that lack of sleep, as a result of stress, means we are  on a downward spiral.  As responsible people and responsible managers we need to have the confidence to a halt.

Some simple changes can make a huge difference to  staying fit to manage. They can affect how we feel and our ability to do the things required of us.

You will find lots of advice and tips on diet including a Heathy Eating Assessment test at this link http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Goodfood/Pages/eight-tips-healthy-eating.aspx

As for advice on physical activity and exercise – you will find advice at this link http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/fitness/Pages/physical-activity-guidelines-for-adults.aspx

If you are not sure what’s causing your fatigue?  There are some common energy zappers that may be to blame – and here are some tips on how to overcome them. http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/tiredness-and-fatigue/Pages/causes-of-tiredness.aspx

My own simple tips (and I’m still working on getting fit) – never leave home without breakfast and never spend more than four hours in an office environment without taking a short walk in the fresh air. Now I’m off to practice what I preach.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach
Wendy Smith, Principal Coach, WiseWolf Life and Career Coaching

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find all her books on Amazon at this link

         

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When you feel confused

When you feel confused

Personal development: When you feel confused

When you feel confused – are you feeling confused right now?

There all kind of occasions when you might feel confused at work or at home.

Sometimes you just need more information for things to become clear.  Then the priority is to stay calm and find that information.

At other times, things are more complex and even with more information you stay confused.

What can you do about confusion?

Remaining calm is always important when dealing with confusion. If that is difficult, take some time out to use a simple relaxation technique like the one at this link.

Then it is time to think and to put the pieces of your jigsaw puzzle into place so you can see a picture you recognise.

What do you feel when you think about your problem? Your feelings are often a key to the real solution. But make sure you really are calm when you consider your feelings – feelings of panic just add to your confusion.

Think about your personal values and priorities and what is truly important to you; not just for today but over the coming months.

Does setting what is really important to you against the problem help to make things clearer?

If not, then try writing down what you know, how you feel about the issues and what you would like to happen. Sometimes, writing things down gives clarity.

Consider talking to someone. Do you have a trusted friend that you can discuss this with? Often talking helps you find a solution.

If you stay confused and the issues are important consider talking to someone like me – a coach. We are trained to help you have a conversation with yourself that should clear your mind and cut through the confusion.

 

Remember working with a coach can really help you to feel happier. Get in touch at the Facing a mid-career dilemmaemail address below – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book your free 30 minute, no obligation, trial coaching session with Wendy Smith now at this Link 

Do You Enjoy Your Work?

Do You Enjoy Your Work?

Do You Enjoy Your Work? Does your team enjoy their work?

Advice from Wendy Smith; Career Coach and author of The WiseWolf Job Search Pocket Book – Wendy’s books on Amazon

Do You Enjoy Your Work? One of the reasons I chose to move out of management consultancy and into coaching was because I loved the coaching part of my job.  There were lots of other things I liked about what I was doing such as problem solving. But I found the most satisfying part of problem solving was working with people to help them solve problems for themselves. And if they had solved problems at work, they were usually happier there. Often this was because it meant they had a hand in bringing about change.

In Western Culture work is seen often as just something we have to do. And it isn’t necessarily meant to make you happy. Sometimes we find ourselves working under duress and sometimes we work only because we need to feed ourselves and our family. For some, it is about being able to buy things that are supposed to make us happy. Unfortunately, and all too often, work is not regarded as contributing to personal expression and satisfaction.

Do You Enjoy Your Work? Why it matters.

If you think about it, most of us spend at least one-third of our lives at work. So, being unhappy in what we do, means we spend at least one-third of lives feeling miserable. And if you are very unhappy at work, you probably spend a large amount of the rest of your waking hours thinking about your misery at work. Feeling miserable at work over a period of time can lead to stress and that has an impact on health and on life away from work.

Finding happiness at work, or at least content, isn’t really that hard. But for many of us happiness at work isn’t wholly within our own control.  Most of us work for someone else.  And we may very much depend upon being empowered by them to find satisfaction. If we can’t find satisfaction and don’t feel engaged and empowered, we become stressed. That puts a big responsibility on managers, not only for physical well-being of their teams, but also for their emotional health.

If you need support as a manager in helping your team feel engaged and empowered please get in touch. If you are an employee who is unhappy at work, I would be very happy to talk to you about how you can improve the situation.

Resources to help your job search or career development

In the job market, there are always lots of useful techniques to learn or to refresh. From writing a modern CV to wooing at the interview, you’ll find lots of tips in my handy little pocket-book.

Stress-free Job Search
A concise and practical little workbook. For all who have the courage to go out and learn the new skills necessary to find a job now.

A concise and practical little work book, it is for all who have the courage to go out and learn the new skills necessary to find a job now.

Find this and my other books on my Amazon page at this link; http://ow.ly/BRSAL

Remember working with a career coach can really help both  job search and career resilience. Get in touch at the Facing a mid-career dilemmaemail address below – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book your free 30 minute, no obligation, trial coaching session with Wendy Smith now at this Link 

Managing in a heatwave

Managing in a heatwave

Managing in a heatwave – at the moment in London we are in the middle of a heat wave.  Having moaned for months that we were living in a country where summer was a things of past – now we have a little too much of it.

This morning like many others I woke up after a most uncomfortable night! This is not the balmy heat of the Mediterranean. Even in the suburbs it is city sticky. So I woke, not only not refreshed but also very tetchy.

Now, I’m blessed with an understanding partner who is coping with the heat much better than I am. He didn’t react to my miserable mutterings – thank goodness.  Instead, bless him, he got me a cold drink and gave me time to wake up properly.

Each of us will react differently to the hot weather and for some of us it will not bring out the best side of our nature.  This is true at work as well as at home.  It isn’t a coincidence that long hot summers are associated with civil disturbance.

So, if you are a manager how do you deal with a work group who are clearly feeling the heat.

Well, first of all recognise that the climate outside the building does affect the climate within.  Some people will feel fine working as usual but others may not. Be aware and listen and look out for what is happening.  If people become argumentative – intervene to calm things down.

Be prepared to be flexible about people needing more drink and rest breaks. If you have air conditioning and access to fans – now is the time to use them.

Supplying bottled water and encouraging people to drink it, will work wonders. If you want to be boss of the year then this afternoon buy everyone an ice cream

If you have people who work outside then make sure they have the right protection from the sun.

On top of all that be aware of yourself and how you are feeling.  If someone makes you feel angry take a deep breath and have a cold drink before you react!

Above all, be patient with yourself and with those you manage.

As this weather is set to continue for a while – here is the Health and Safety Executive’s guidance on Heat Stress http://www.hse.gov.uk/temperature/heatstress/index.htm

Wendy is the The Career Coach – helping you to find fresh perspectives on your Job Search and Career. She helps you work towards your goals and aspirations, in a way that fits in with both work and home life. Email her at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com,  find her on Skype at wendymason14, or call +44 (0) 2081239146 (02081239146 for UK callers) or +1 262 317 9016 if you are in the US.

Book a free trial/consultation to try phone coaching from the comfort of your own home and without risk. Don’t forget to ask about the Summer Special Offer 

Managing People – Avoiding Hot Words in Warm Weather

Managing People – Hot Words in Warm Weather

At the moment in London we are in the middle of a heat wave.  Having moaned for months that we were living in a country where summer was a things of past – now we have a little too much of it.

This morning like many others I woke up after a most uncomfortable night! This is not the balmy heat of the Mediterranean. Even in the suburbs it is city sticky. So I woke, not only not refreshed but also very tetchy.

Now, I’m blessed with an understanding partner who is coping with the heat much better than I am. He didn’t react to my miserable mutterings – thank goodness.  Instead, bless him, he got me a cold drink and gave me time to wake up properly.

Each of us will react differently to the hot weather and for some of us it will not bring out the best side of our nature.  This is true at work as well as at home.  It isn’t a coincidence that long hot summers are associated with civil disturbance.

So, if you are a manager how do you deal with a work group who are clearly feeling the heat.

Well, first of all recognise that the climate outside the building does affect the climate within.  Some people will feel fine working as usual but others may not. Be aware and listen and look out for what is happening.  If people become argumentative – intervene to calm things down.

Be prepared to be flexible about people needing more drink and rest breaks. If you have air conditioning and access to fans – now is the time to use them.

Supplying bottled water and encouraging people to drink it, will work wonders. If you want to be boss of the year then this afternoon buy everyone an ice cream

If you have people who work outside then make sure they have the right protection from the sun.

On top of all that be aware of yourself and how you are feeling.  If someone makes you feel angry take a deep breath and have a cold drink before you react!

Above all, be patient with yourself and with those you manage.

As this weather is set to continue for a while – here is the Health and Safety Executive’s guidance on Heat Stress http://www.hse.gov.uk/temperature/heatstress/index.htm

Wendy is the The Career Coach – helping you to find fresh perspectives on your Job Search and Career. She helps you work towards your goals and aspirations, in a way that fits in with both work and home life. Email her at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com,  find her on Skype at wendymason14, or call +44 (0) 2081239146 (02081239146 for UK callers) or +1 262 317 9016 if you are in the US.

Book a free trial/consultation to try phone coaching from the comfort of your own home and without risk. Don’t forget to ask about the Summer Special Offer 

Personal Devopment; How to Stay Motivated Throughout the Day

How to Stay Motivated Throughout the Day

Brian Tracy is one of the most listened to audio author on personal and business success. His fast-moving talks and seminars on leadership, sales, managerial effectiveness and business strategy are loaded with powerful, proven ideas and strategies that people can immediately apply to get better results in every area.

He believes that to be successful, you must keep up high levels of energy to complete all the goals you set for yourself.  He stays energetic and motivated throughout the day by getting plenty of rest every night, having a good breakfast, and getting regular exercise. Here is his video on the subject.

Wendy Mason is the Happiness Coach and author of a new novel, The Wolf Project Wendy is a life and career coach and writer. She is passionate about helping people find happiness at work and at home! She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  She believes coaching requires compassion, warmth and empathy. Wendy helps people reach their career goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com

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