People Who Don’t Like Being Managed

Managing People Who Don’t Like Managers

 

There are lots of people who don’t like being managed. And they can create a real headache for their managers. But, let’s remember, if everybody were the

same, life would become dull quickly. And some very talented people don’t like having a “boss.” Unfortunately, lots of managers wish they could pick staff from a standardised ‘worker’ box. Barring complete automation of the workforce, this isn’t going to happen any time soon.

So, you need to be able to handle all kinds of people, if you are going to get results. Given that, what are you going do you do with those awkward souls who are supremely talented, but see management as authority to kick back against? Here are some tips.

Tips for Managing People Who Don’t Like Being Managed

1) Put yourself in their shoes

Seeing things from the other person’s perspective will help-. First, check if they have always acted in this way. Is it something that started recently?  Or, have they always found authority difficult?

If this is a recent thing, there could be something outside work causing the problem. If you can find out without invading their privacy, see if you can help. But you may have to face that your management style doesn’t work for them! You need to have the confidence to be open and honest. It is important to work out what is happening and find a solution. Maybe it isn’t the employee who needs to change.

2) Embrace conflict

This doesn’t mean you need to enjoy getting into squabbles with your staff. Far from it! But you do need to make sure that you are addressing it in the right way. Conflict is inevitable at some point, particularly in teams full of clever, talented people grappling with tough issues. If the thought of it fills you with dread, then you are likely to be in the wrong job.

Handling conflict in the right way means being open, fair and direct. Do not avoid it. And do not steamroller your way through. Listen to the issues being presented and look for a constructive outcome. Try to hear all sides. Look for an outcome that will resolve the problem for most, if not all.

3) Make work goals laser focused

Ambiguity can lead to disagreement. It is important to set clear goals for your team. If you can, don’t leave things open to misinterpretation. Ambiguity can leave a member of staff feeling cheated. But be realistic, some organisations do have conflicting objectives, so be as open and honest as you can in explaining to your staff why things are this way. Ask questions yourself of your own manager to get clarity. 

If your goals are clear-cut there is no room for argument. They’ve either been met, or they haven’t. Well set targets for your staff lets them know where they stand. It makes the job of evaluating their performance that much easier.

4) Know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em

Having said all that, you may have to take a view on someone’s real value to the organisation. If someone is causing problems long term r causing major disruption, you will need to consider whether they should move on. Is there a department where they may be better suited? Or, do you need to let them go? It doesn’t take long for discontent to spread within a group. Don’t be afraid to act but do consult your HR section, if you have one and have an eye on Employment Law.   

This doesn’t mean behaving like a dictator. It does means that if a member of staff has been given a as much help/support as you can muster and still causes problems, you must act.  

5) Be aware that management is never plain sailing

My last tip is not so much one for handling others, as it is for handling yourself. Knowing that management is a tough job will give you a better perspective. Management isn’t easy. But I do believe that learning to be a good manager means you yourself will be happier at work. 

Working with a coach can help you be a better manager. You can get in touch with me at the email address below – I offer a free one-hour trial session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Mason Smith is a life and career coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up a new business or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues at home. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find all her books on Amazon at this link

         

Difficult people – stay neutral!

Difficult people – stay neutral!

Difficult people! We all meet difficult people at work and in our private lives. Dealing with difficult people is a subject that seems to generate more interest than anything else, here and at my other blog, WiseWolf’s Your Happiness Factor. So I’m making no apologies for writing about this again.

Difficult people can do more than make us unhappy.  As if that isn’t bad enough, difficult people can be bad for your health.  If you let them stress you out, that can lead to physical and the psychological problems.

If we meet difficult people in the workplace and they are work colleagues, the stress is on-going.  Even if you are the manager of a difficult person, it can take a toll.  And, if the “difficult person” is your boss, the stress can be almost intolerable. I’m not talking here about a bullying boss; just someone who is difficult to work with.

This video discusses how it is important to stay calm, stay in a neutral space and stay assertive. Try not to let them engage your emotions – you can use visualization to help do this. Accept that all you can control is how you react.

And, yes, it often helps to work with a coach.

This video from http://www.howdini.com/howdini-video-… Mary Bolster, editor of Natural Health Magazine, has some excellent reminders to help you deal with the difficult people in your life.

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find her books on Amazon at this link

         

People at work – how to deal with difficult people – stay neutral!

People at work – how to deal with difficult people – stay neutral!

We all meet difficult people at work and in our private lives.  Dealing with difficult people is a subject that seems to generate more interest than anything else, here and at my other blog, WiseWolf’s Your Happiness Factor.  So I’m making no apologies for posting about this again.

Difficult people can do more than make us unhappy.  As if that isn’t bad enough, difficult people can be bad for your health.  If you let them stress you out, that can lead to physical and the psychological problems.

If we meet difficult people in the workplace and they are work colleagues, the stress is on-going.  Even if you are the manager of a difficult person, it can take a toll.  And, if the “difficult person” is your boss, the stress can be almost intolerable. I’m not talking here about a bullying boss; just someone who is difficult to work with.

This video discusses how it is important to stay calm, stay in a neutral space and stay assertive. Try not to let them engage your emotions – you can use visualization to help do this. Accept that all you can control is how you react.

And, yes, it often helps to work with a coach.

You might find this  other post about learning from difficult people useful too.

This video from http://www.howdini.com/howdini-video-… Mary Bolster, editor of Natural Health Magazine, has some excellent reminders to help you deal with the difficult people in your life.

Wendy Mason is the Happiness Coach and author of a new novel, The Wolf Project Wendy is a life and career coach and writer. She is passionate about helping people find happiness at work and at home! She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  She believes coaching requires compassion, warmth and empathy. Wendy helps people reach their career goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com

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Difficult people – learning from them

Difficult people – learning from them

Thoughts for managers – learning from difficult people!

Difficult people – counsellor and trainer Susan Fee shares three lessons difficult people can teach us.

Difficult people

As managers, we need to think about what we can learn from those we manage.  But we still have to be very practical and make sure that we reconcile caring for the needs of the team, and meeting their needs, with meeting the aims of the organization.  That reconciliation is at the heart of what we do as managers.

Wendy Mason is the Happiness Coach and author of a new novel, The Wolf Project.  Wendy is a life and career coach and writer. She is passionate about helping people find happiness at work and at home! She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  She believes coaching requires compassion, warmth and empathy. Wendy helps people reach their career goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com

CV review and interview preparation a speciality

  • Managing People – Dealing With Difficult Employees
  • Tuesday Quotes:Management:Encourage Your Staff
  • Happiness at Work – Becoming Indispensable

Thoughts for managers – learning from difficult people!

Thoughts for managers – learning from difficult people!

Counselor and trainer Susan Fee shares three lessons difficult people can teach us.

As managers, we need to think about what we can learn from those we manage.  But we still have to be very practical and make sure that we reconcile caring for the needs of the team, and meeting their needs, with meeting the aims of the organization.  That reconciliation is at the heart of what we do as managers.

Wendy Mason is the Happiness Coach and author of a new novel, The Wolf Project.  Wendy is a life and career coach and writer. She is passionate about helping people find happiness at work and at home! She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  She believes coaching requires compassion, warmth and empathy. Wendy helps people reach their career goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com

CV review and interview preparation a speciality

  • Managing People – Dealing With Difficult Employees
  • Tuesday Quotes:Management:Encourage Your Staff
  • Happiness at Work – Becoming Indispensable