Your boss doesn’t talk to you

Your boss doesn’t talk to you

Advice from Wendy Smith; Career Coach and author of How To Get On With The Boss – order on Amazon

Your boss doesn’t talk to you! So you’ve done the new job for a while now. And you think you are doing OK. In fact you think you are doing better than OK.

But your boss gives you no sign of what she thinks about your performance. She comes in everyday, wishes you good morning and then disappears into her office. She’s quite pleasant and there is no suggestion that there is a problem, you just need to know what she really thinks about what you are doing.

This situation can feel totally demoralising and you begin to have all kinds of doubts. What can you do?

Well, you have to grasp the nettle and ask for the feedback that isn’t being volunteered.

First, gather your own evidence about your performance, such as, feedback from customers. Then, think about the questions you want to ask and how you are going to ask them; you don’t want to alienate your boss.

Now ask your boss for some time to talk. Choose your moment carefully – don’t ask when the boss is under pressure or about to go to an important meeting. Make sure you get the appointment in the boss’s diary and that you get enough time for a proper discussion. Ideally, you need at least 30 minutes – again not before or immediately after an event on which your boss is going to want to concentrate.

At the meeting make sure you emphasize that you want to take care of your boss’s interests as well as your own. You want to make sure that you are doing the job the boss wants you to do. Avoid getting into arguments or being confrontational. Use the evidence you have collected if you face any criticism you consider unjustified.

I expect you will be pleasantly surprised and that your boss is happy with what you’re doing. You just need to remind them that that is something you need to be told. I am sure all is well but you won’t know that for sure until you ask. Good luck.

Other resources for people with problem bosses

As a coach I work with lots of people who have problems with their boss. So I wrote a little book to help them. You can help your boss help you – don’t be made unhappy, suffer stress and lose confidence because you cannot get on with the person in charge. Poor relationships at work can damage life at home as well as your career. My book can help.

Remember working with a career coach can really help you feel happier at work. Get in touch at the Facing a mid-career dilemmaemail address below – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

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