How to Handle Bad News
How to Handle Bad News – all of us have to deal with bad news sometimes. This could be at work or in our private lives. It includes dealing with rejection at work or in your job search.
Hearing bad news and feeling rejected can make you feel miserable. And telling yourself it doesn’t matter, or that you aren’t bothered, is not going to help you. Instead of bottling up your emotions, it is good to let them out. Then you can usually move on more easily. Having someone who you trust to whom you can express your disappointment really does help. If no one is around, then writing it all down in private is useful. And of course it is the kind of thing that life coaches and career coaches can help you with.
Don’t feel guilty or that you are necessarily to blame. For example, in job search, recruitment procedures can be very crude and the best candidate doesn’t always get the job. Lots of very good candidates get screened out for less than good reasons. But you should try to get feedback and learn from the experience in case there is something useful for next time.
Look for the positives in the experience. For example,, did you learn some useful information in your research? Have you met new people that you can now add to your network? Have your learned new skills? Reflecting on the real positives will help build up your confidence after the knock.
Above all, know that you are not alone. Rejection happens all the time in life and learning to deal with it is a key life skill. Certainly these days it is a key skill in job search. But if you find yourself getting in stuck on the downward slope, find someone to talk to – either a trusted friend or a coach like me.
Now onwards and upwards – it is good to keep occupied and not ruminate on what has happened. The world is still full of possibilities. Don’t miss them by taking yourself out of the game – commit to bouncing right back.
Working with a coach really can help you handle rejection. You can get in touch at the link at the bottom of this page – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.
Resources for the job seeker (but remember I’m a life coach as well as a career coach)
As a job seeker, there are lots of useful techniques to learn or to refresh. From writing a modern CV to wooing at the interview, you’ll find lots of tips in my handy little pocket book.
A concise and practical little work book. For all who have the courage to go out and learn the new skills necessary to find a job now.
Find this and my other books on my Amazon page at this link; http://ow.ly/BRSAL
Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues.