Jealousy at Work
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Jealousy at Work – you can’t please all the people all the time. As you make your way through life, you can expect to make lots of friends and, like most people, you will probably make a few “enemies.” I mean not everyone will like you. This is true at work as in any other part of life. And you could find that they try to bring you down or belittle you and your accomplishments. The root of this dislike is often jealousy and jealous people can create all kinds of difficulties.
Sometimes jealousy is obvious – you just can’t ignore their need to compete. Often, it is more subtle and you simply hear about it at second-hand about, for example, sly remarks. It is often this more subtle way of expressing jealousy that can be most damaging,
So how do you deal with jealousy at work?
First, you need to consider whether your behaviour is adding to the problem. Have you done anything to inspire their jealous feelings? You need to consider honestly how you have interacted with them. How have you behaved in front of them, in the past? Have you, perhaps, flaunted your success? Do you need to change the way you behave?
Next, consider how you can defuse their jealousy. If their jealous worries you and you consider it a threat, it is time take action. Go out of your way to be cordial with your colleagues and to support others. Try to build the confidence and self-esteem of all your workmates. Think of ways to share your success. Be ready to help and train them to be successful.
Share the glory
Take the time to congratulate your peers including the person who doesn’t like your success. But do authentically when there is really something to celebrate.
Try not to be jealous yourself. Those negative feelings will be recognized by others. And negative behaviour is usually reflected back at you
If you are unable to defuse a colleague’s jealousy, you may be forced to protect your reputation in the workplace. This may be about damage control and direct action. But remember no one comes out very far ahead in most confrontations. If negative gossip by the jealous person has begun, then you need to show that it is wrong. Don’t start a gossip campaign against your attacker as this will only inflame their dislike. Continue to praise to others. And show a positive attitude even when that is a challenge. Do good work, work hard, and avoid joining in any form of gossip. Above all stay, and show, that you are going to stay professional.
Bosses, like all of us, come with a range of human emotions and one of them may be jealousy. I have written another post here on how to deal with a jealous boss and you can find it at this link
If you think that jealousy is leading to you being bullied then take advice at work from the HR department or think about talking to a coach or counsellor outside work.
If you need help to bring harmony back to your life at work, please get in touch.
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Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues.