Job Search – Dealing with rejection
So, sadly, you didn’t get the job. The first message is don’t take it personally.
A job interview really isn’t a measure of your personal or professional worth. It is about an organization matching people against the criteria they have chosen to apply. So they didn’t think you were the perfect match on the day. That doesn’t mean you are not an outstanding professional with great ability – it just means they think they were not looking for you.
Interviews are not about personal or professional validation and don’t use them for that. If you need to work on your confidence – use other methods – job interviews are very risky.
Unfortunately not getting the job can lead us to ruminate on past failure. That just makes you feel miserable – try to stay in the present. Focus on what you are good at and what you really care about – recognize that no one is perfect.
But do try to learn from the experience. What could you have done differently? Make sure you get as much feedback as you can. And then evaluate – don’t take any criticism personally and don’t assume automatically that it is valid in terms of you and your performance – it is the view they formed in their context. But do listen and read carefully any feedback you are given.
Accept reality – rejection is part of job search – particularly in the current climate. Buttress yourself up against it and keep it in perspective. Don’t start blaming them or yourself for what has happened but do accept responsibility for your own performance and accept valid and reasonable criticism, given in good faith.
Know that you are not alone. Every day countless others are sharing your experience. Sometimes it helps to seek out others and share support. You can also share contacts and job leads. Find a local job club.
Stay healthy, eat, exercise and spend part of everyday doing something you really enjoy. Upwards and onwards the right job for you might be just round the next corner.
If you need support from a coach in your job search, I’ll be happy to help. My email address is below.