Confidence and the well equipped leader
For various reasons which I won’t go into here, I’ve been reading a lot recently about military leadership and the training of military leaders. A key component in military leadership training is the development of confidence – you need to believe in your own competence and vision, if you are to inspire others to follow you.
Now, as a coach, I often work with people who want to develop their confidence. We work together on how they think about themselves and relate to the people they engage with. I teach them techniques to help them develop the competencies they need to have confidence.
The common themes in my approach to helping people develop confidence and how the military does it is, I think, achievement and practice. I encourage people to learn how to move out of their comfort zones, usually in small steps to begin with and then moving up to larger ones. For some people, smiling at a stranger has much in common with overcoming a hurdle on an assault course. The feeling of fear and then knowing how to manage that fear is common to both. The trick is then to repeat the exercise until your comfort zone extends to embrace it – you know you can do it. And those nervous thoughts rarely enter your head. If they do you, know you can manage them. You take pride in the achievement and, with that, comes confidence.
So if you want to be a good leader, work on your confidence – take a deep breath and begin to take steps outside your own comfort zone. Find that one small step each day and take it, then take it again. Monitor how it feels before and after – now, you know you can do it. Keep practicing. Take pride in your achievements – can’t you feel that confidence grow!
And if you need support in developing your confidence, please get in touch because that is what I do.
Wendy Mason is a career coach. She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between coaching and writing. You can contact Wendy at firstname.lastname@example.org and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com