When you feel confused

When you feel confused

Personal development: When you feel confused

When you feel confused – are you feeling confused right now?

There all kind of occasions when you might feel confused at work or at home.

Sometimes you just need more information for things to become clear.  Then the priority is to stay calm and find that information.

At other times, things are more complex and even with more information you stay confused.

What can you do about confusion?

Remaining calm is always important when dealing with confusion. If that is difficult, take some time out to use a simple relaxation technique like the one at this link.

Then it is time to think and to put the pieces of your jigsaw puzzle into place so you can see a picture you recognise.

What do you feel when you think about your problem? Your feelings are often a key to the real solution. But make sure you really are calm when you consider your feelings – feelings of panic just add to your confusion.

Think about your personal values and priorities and what is truly important to you; not just for today but over the coming months.

Does setting what is really important to you against the problem help to make things clearer?

If not, then try writing down what you know, how you feel about the issues and what you would like to happen. Sometimes, writing things down gives clarity.

Consider talking to someone. Do you have a trusted friend that you can discuss this with? Often talking helps you find a solution.

If you stay confused and the issues are important consider talking to someone like me – a coach. We are trained to help you have a conversation with yourself that should clear your mind and cut through the confusion.

 

Remember working with a coach can really help you to feel happier. Get in touch at the Facing a mid-career dilemmaemail address below – I offer a free half hour trial session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Smith, Career, life and Business Coach

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book your free 30 minute, no obligation, trial coaching session with Wendy Smith now at this Link 

On the Job: How Productive Is Your Lunch Hour?

On the Job: How Productive Is Your Lunch Hour?

Today’s post comes from Tamara M. Williams who  is an EzineArticles Platinum Level Expert Author. Her articles cover topics such as Computer and Technology and Email Marketing. Visit her profile page on EzineArticles to learn more.

A typical lunch hour is one hour. For the week, this means that you have five (5) hours to put towards a variety of goals. So how do you spend your lunchtime? Do you spend it standing in long lines to buy lunch, catching up on office grapevine discussions with co-workers, running personal errands or catching up on work duties? In order to make the most use of that one hour, you should be spending it towards improving your personal or work life.

Unproductive Tasks That Can Consume Your Entire Lunch Hour

There are many ways to spend time, but standing in a long line at a fast food restaurant, café or cafeteria consumes too much time and energy that could be invested elsewhere. Another popular activity is to spend the lunch hour completing work tasks. However, spending all day discussing work can increase your stress levels as your body and mind do not get the chance to relax. Hence, you are even further stressed when you get home. Alternatively, talking with co-workers about various general topics such as local news, the weather and gossip can also eat up your entire hour.

Simple Ways to Stop Wasting Time

Now that you have noticed various tasks that consume your entire lunch hour, you can take some simple steps to increase your efficiency. First, to reduce time spent waiting in line, order lunch and have it delivered to your company. You can also prepare meals from home and take a brown bag lunch to work. Use these time-saving tips a few days per week so that you can utilize your lunchtime more effectively.

Next, when you sit down with co-workers, decide on a maximum time to spend discussing sports, TV show episodes, work tasks or other social activities. For example, set a timer for twenty (20) minutes. Then spend the remainder of the time building up your interpersonal relationships with colleagues. This could mean asking about favourite foods, movies, hobbies, etc. You could also find out what personal tasks they need help with and offer tips or suggest products and services that you love to use. This way all persons involved are benefiting from the discussions. Finally, use this time to complete other important personal tasks such as reading a book, taking an online course or creating your shopping lists. This would greatly reduce your To Do list each week.

Use your lunchtime wisely. If you have to catch up on work tasks because of an emergency or impending deadline, then go ahead. However, it would be less stressful and more productive to work on your interpersonal relationships with colleagues and tackle some personal tasks on your To Do list. This makes your lunch hour more productive and makes your work and personal life much more relaxed.

About The Author:

Tamara M. Williams is an EzineArticles Platinum Level Expert Author. Her articles cover topics such as Computer and Technology and Email Marketing. Visit her profile page on EzineArticles to learn more.

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A Personal Development Mindset Is Important

A Personal Development Mindset Is Important

A personal development mindset is important – having a personal development mindset means that you take responsibility for understanding yourself as an individual. You know you are responsible for identifying and developing your own strengths and talents. It means you take control and become responsible for your own life and what you make of it – you take control of your own success and happiness.

But you can receive support from others in developing the mindset and in helping you to develop yourself.

A personal development mindset is something for you to work on. Personal development includes understanding your values and living in accordance with them. This in turn helps to strengthen your self-image and self-esteem. Then you begin to be able to see your own potential and you can work towards fulfilling it, in your both your work and in your home life.

Personal development enables you to;

  • Expect to succeed in your own terms,
  • Take risks that are right for you and set challenging goals,
  • Keep working patiently until you reach your goal.

Having a personal development mindset means you are;

  • Optimistic about the future even in hard times
  • Self-confident and believe in your own abilities
  • A self-starter who takes action – there can be no success without action
  • Open to new ideas wherever they come from
  • Someone who values yourself and your special contribution
  • Abundant in your thinking – it is all out there waiting for you
  • Someone who knows how to influence others for the good of all
  • Patient – you know worthwhile things are worth waiting for
  • A student – you continue learning throughout your life
  • Prepared to question yourself and respond to your own self-review

It sounds aspirational doesn’t it. But it is something worth working towards and we can all work together!

Wendy Smith is a career and life coach with depth of experience in career coaching, business coaching and personal development. She helps clients find a new career direction, start-up new businesses and achieve a better work/life balance. You can contact Wendy at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Welcome to the WiseWolf Christmas Newsletter for 2013

Welcome to the WiseWolf Christmas Newsletter for  2013


So Christmas comes round once again and, of course, much more quickly than we expect. 

2013 has been a momentous year for me, full of a rich mixture of highs and lows. I’ve had an opportunity to work with some amazing clients which is always inspiring. I go on learning – in November I was awarded an advanced diploma in life coaching with a distinction. And this year I published my first novel with a second one in October. Now I’m working on book three together with a television play – so 2014 should be exciting. But there has been sadness this year too; like many others, I’ve lost people that I love.

I hope that 2013 for you has had far more ups than downs and that you finish the year with a real appreciation of all that you have achieved so far. December is a great month to take stock and one of the articles below is intended to help you do just that.

You can read the rest of the Newsletter at the link below with news of a special offerand articles to help you to manage the stress of Christmas, a guide to handling the Office Party and how to do a personal stock-take to help you make a positive start to 2014.

Click here for Christmas Greetings From WiseWolf




The pain of positive change

The pain of positive change

The pain of positive change – like many other people, I spent a large part of my life working out how to avoid pain.  I say “many” but I suspect it is true of most people.

Physical pain and gain

One little known fact about me is that when I was well into my forties I took up weight training.  I’m talking about serous weight training here, shading into body building with free weights.  Over time I became quite fit and felt very strong.  It gave me lots of confidence.

Later, my whole life changed and going to the gym was not a priority. I regret that I dropped out of training and have never gone back.  But the experience did teach me a fundamental life lesson.

The pain of positive change and growth

There are two kinds of pain. There is the kind that tells you something is wrong. And there is the kind you experience during positive change and growth.

All change is accompanied by pain to some degree and so is much growth.

If you really want to achieve something in this life then it helps to learn the lesson about good pain.

You need to be prepared to go through your own personal pain barrier.  But of course you also need to be able to distinguish “good” pain from that which tells you something is wrong.

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find her books on Amazon at this link

         

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Career Development: Monday Thought – Good Things Can Come With Pain

Career Development: Monday Thought –  Good Things Can Come With Pain

Advice from Wendy Smith. Wendy is a Career and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career.  You can book a FREE coaching session or find out more at this link

Good Things Can Come With Pain – Like many other people, I spent a large part of my life working out how to avoid pain.  I say “many” but I suspect that is true of most people.

One little known fact about me is that when I was well into my forties I took up weight training.  I’m talking about serous weight training here, shading into body building with free weights.  Over time I became quite fit and felt very strong.  It gave me lots of confidence.

Later, my whole life changed and going to the gym was not a priority. I regret that I dropped out of training and have never gone back.  But the experience did teach me a fundamental life lesson.

There are two kinds of pain. There is the kind that tells you something is wrong. And there is the kind you experience during positive change and growth.

Good things can come with pain – all change is accompanied by pain to some degree and so is much growth.

If you really want to achieve something in this life then it helps to learn the lesson about good pain.

You need to be prepared to go through your own personal pain barrier.  But of course you also need to be able to distinguish “good” pain from that which tells you something is wrong.

Career coaches like me are around to help you thrive and succeed in difficult times. Get in touch at this link – I would like to discuss how I can help.

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in helping people lead happier lives and feel more fulfilled. She has worked in management as well as coaching and personal development, as well as starting up her own businesses. That means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up a new business or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. 

Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book a FREE coaching session with Wendy or find out more at this link

 

Career Development is Founded on Personal Development

Career Development is Founded on Personal Development

Fundamental to career development is personal development. By this I mean developing self-awareness and self-confidence, together with a rounded approach to life.   This allows you to enhance the quality of your life as well as realizing your aspirations at work.

The first step towards self-development is to open your mind to possibilities and be willing to explore and try new things.

Personal development is mind opening

Mind opening is one of things that make gap years so successful in helping young people to mature.  Even though it can be quite devastating for Mum and Dad when the son or daughter who returns seems to have changed so much.

Some people are lucky enough to spend time on a long sabbatical later in their careers. For most of us that is not an option.  Despite that you can make a choice to find out and experience new things in you everyday life as it now.  And that will aid your own personal development.

Suppose you make a resolution now to do something new and different each day.  This could be as simple as taking a new route to work.  It just needs to be something new.

If you really wanted to get full benefit from your experiences you will begin to reflect and record what you did, how you felt about it and what you got from it.

Think about it! There could be all kinds of new possibilities – what could the weekend bring?

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find her books on Amazon at this link

         

Enhance the quality of your life

Enhance the quality of your life with personal development

Advice from Wendy Smith. Wendy is a Life, Career and Business Coach helping you find fresh perspectives and open your life to possibilities.  You can book a FREE coaching session or find out more at this link

Enhance the quality of your life with personal development. By this I mean developing self-awareness and self-confidence, together with a rounded approach to life. This allows you to enhance the quality of your life as well as realizing your aspirations at work.

The first step towards self-development is to open your mind to possibilities and be willing to explore and try new things.

Mind opening is one of things that make  gap years so successful in helping young people to mature.  Even though it can be quite devastating for Mum and Dad when the son or daughter who returns seems to have changed so much.

Some people are lucky enough to spend time on a long sabbatical later in their careers. For most of us that is not an option.  Despite that you can make a choice to find out and experience new things in you everyday life as it now.  And that will aid your own personal development.

Suppose you make a resolution now to do something new and different each day.  This could be as simple as taking a new route to work.  It just needs to be something new.

If you really wanted to get full benefit from your experiences you will begin to reflect and record what you did, how you felt about it and what you got from it. How about keeping a daily journal.

There could be all kinds of new possibilities New things to explore and new possibilities. Many of my clients find that life gains new colour as well as a new and deeper meaning. Get in touch if you would like my help.

Wendy Smith is a life, career and business coach with depth of experience in helping people lead happier lives and feel more fulfilled.  You can book a FREE coaching session with Wendy or find out more at this link

 

Know Yourself!

Know Yourself!

Managing People – Know Yourself!

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. Aristotle

Know yourself

Know yourself – I’ve been writing a lot recently about the personal development mindset.  A key part of the mindset is self-belief.  But before you can believe in yourself, you need to understand yourself; particularly your strengths, your weaknesses and your personality.  This is particularly important if you want to be successful at managing others!

Know yourself if you want to manage others successfully. I have important news for you – there are no perfect managers.  Managers have strengths and all of them have weaknesses too.  You are no different to the rest.  There will be things that you are good at and there will be other things that you might prefer not to talk about, or even to admit to yourself.  And every one of us has our own quirks of personality.  Believe me, you need to understand yours!  If you want to succeed as a manager, you need to be honest and, not least, with yourself.

Being a good manager doesn’t mean you need to be perfect or to know everything.  But, you do need to be good at covering the gaps; that only works if you know where the gaps are.  Then you have options.

When you know yourself you can:

  • Put together a team that includes people who are what you are not and can do what you cannot. Sometimes this can be a challenge – often our first instinct is to recruit people just like us! If you are putting together a team for an important, business critical, task,  you need to have all the bases covered,
  • Outsource/buy in the ability you need, when you need it, for example, HR advice when faced with a large-scale organizational change.
  • Adapt the task so that it uses the skills and experience you have available. This may be negotiable more often than you think.  But without an honest appraisal of your own strengths and the strengths of the team, that would not be possible.

If you would like to understand yourself better then “Personality: What makes you the way you are” by Daniel Nettle comes well recommended.  Also, there are lots of free personality tests on line – HumanMetrics provides one of the more widely used ones.

Wendy Mason is the Happiness Coach and author of a new novel, The Wolf Project Wendy is a life and career coach and writer. She is passionate about helping people find happiness at work and at home! She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  She believes coaching requires compassion, warmth and empathy. Wendy helps people reach their career goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Managing People – Know Yourself!

Managing People – Know Yourself!

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. Aristotle

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I’ve been writing a lot recently about the personal development mindset.  A key part of the mindset is self-belief.  But before you can believe in yourself, you need to understand yourself; particularly your strengths, your weaknesses and your personality.  This is particularly important if you want to be successful at managing others!

I have important news for you – there are no perfect managers.  Managers have strengths and all of them have weaknesses too.  You are no different to the rest.  There will be things that you are good at and there will be other things that you might prefer not to talk about, or even to admit to yourself.  And every one of us has our own quirks of personality.  Believe me, you need to understand yours!  If you want to succeed as a manager, you need to be honest and, not least, with yourself.

Being a good manager doesn’t mean you need to be perfect or to know everything.  But, you do need to be good at covering the gaps; that only works if you know where the gaps are.  Then you have options.

You can:

  • Put together a team that includes people who are what you are not and can do what you cannot. Sometimes this can be a challenge – often our first instinct is to recruit people just like us! If you are putting together a team for an important, business critical, task,  you need to have all the bases covered,
  • Outsource/buy in the ability you need, when you need it, for example, HR advice when faced with a large-scale organizational change.
  • Adapt the task so that it uses the skills and experience you have available. This may be negotiable more often than you think.  But without an honest appraisal of your own strengths and the strengths of the team, that would not be possible.

If you would like to understand yourself better then “Personality: What makes you the way you are” by Daniel Nettle comes well recommended.  Also, there are lots of free personality tests on line – HumanMetrics provides one of the more widely used ones.

Wendy Mason is the Happiness Coach and author of a new novel, The Wolf Project Wendy is a life and career coach and writer. She is passionate about helping people find happiness at work and at home! She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  She believes coaching requires compassion, warmth and empathy. Wendy helps people reach their career goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com