Making Changes – What Is Troubling You?
Making Changes – part 3 of the series. Be Clear About Your Emotions!
What Is Troubling You? In the last post in this series I discussed the need to be quite clear about what you need to change. I said you needed to be as specific and detailed as you could in the way you defined the change. Starting with a clear and detailed description has a huge impact on the success of your change.
Next you need to think about how you really feel about the change. No significant change is made without some impact on our emotions. Understanding what those emotions are and knowing how to manage their impact can be key to success.
Troublesome emotions like anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, anger, hurt, jealousy and envy can occur at any time in our lives. They might be associated with lots of different events. Sometimes they occur when most people may think there should be nothing to worry about. But they worry you. And they can be very difficult to deal with.
Perhaps one theme and one emotion recurs time and again. It hasn’t stopped you doing something but it has made it more difficult to do and less satisfying.
Teasing out exactly what the emotion could be is the first step in understanding the thoughts and beliefs behind it. It can help you gain control of the emotion and make sure things turn out more positively in future.
What Is Troubling You? What do you really feel?
What do you feel, when you think about the change you have to make? Exactly what emotion is being stirred within you?
Now is the time to take some time for reflection. Try not to judge yourself for the emotion you feel. Be very honest with yourself. Sometimes support from someone you trust like a coach can be helpful in working out what is troubling you.
The next post in this series will be about what aspect of the change is triggering the emotion and why?
If you have tips to share with others about making changes in your life – please get in touch.
Working with a coach can help you to change successfully – email me at the address below for information on how I can help you.
Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org
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