1.the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.
2.an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay: to have patience with a slow learner.
3.quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence: to work with patience.
In an earlier post on being a great boss in a recession I wrote that one of the great ways you could be good boss was to have patience. I said
“Don’t rush into panic decision making because you feel anxious. Its a natural reaction but it really will not help – a panic reaction is not likely to be the best one. Take time to make decisions properly. Gather the facts, seek the views of your staff. Then when you have made the decision take time to explain it to them, if you can.”
But gathering the facts takes time and as a society, we have lost the art of waiting for things – if we want something we want it now! We want to make the important decision and we want to make it now – we fear being accused of procrastinating. But getting to the point where we can make the right decision is not procrastinating. Often we do feel frustrated and we can feel angry and, if the frustration continues, we feel stressed! But to learn to wait for the right moment and to have patience furthers peace of mind and makes it easier for people to be around us. If we are patient, we release from our shoulders an unnecessary burden of anxiety and control. To choose patience is to have wisdom
Patience itself is important – its often described as a core virtue in religion or spiritual practices. For example, Job is a figure that appears in the Hebrew Bible, Christian Bible and the Qur’an; his story is considered a profound religious work. At its core, the theme is the co-existence of evil and God and the application of patience is highlighted as the antidote to the earthly struggles caused by that co-existence. In Buddhism, patience is one of the “perfections” that a bodhisattva trains in and practices to realize perfect enlightenment. Patience is recognized within Hinduism in the Bhagavad Gita. In both Hinduism and Buddhism there is a particular emphasis on meditation, aspects of which lead to a natural state of mindfulness that is conducive to patient, effective and well-organized thought.
You are certainly more likely exercise patience if you know how to relax and we have information about a simple relaxation technique at this link.
Meanwhile when someone has deal with bad news during any kind of change, remember the words of an old pop song!
Have a little patience
My heart is numb, has no feeling
So while I’m still healing
Just try and have a little patience
(Take That – Patience)
So now all you have to do is go away and practice! practice! practice!