Rejection is part of job search
Rejection is part of job search. Buttress yourself up against it and keep it in perspective. It hurts, though, when you don’t get thejob that you prepared for so carefully. But a job interview really isn’t a measure of your personal or professional worth. What it is about is an organization matching people against the criteria they have chosen to apply. And they didn’t think you were the perfect match on the day. That doesn’t mean you are not an outstanding professional with great ability. It just means they think they were not looking for you.
Interviews are not about personal or professional validation. But sadly that is how many of us end up thinking. It is dangerous. If you need personal validation you may need to work on your confidence. Job interviews are too risky to be part of the process.
Unfortunately not getting the job can lead to ruminating on what just happened and on past failure. That makes you feel miserable. So try to stay in the present and look forward. Focus on what you are good at and what you really care about. But recognize that no one is perfect.
You can use the experience for learning though. Make sure you get as much feedback as you can. Ask the recruiter and press (politely) if you have to get good information. And then evaluate. Don’t take criticism personally and don’t assume automatically that it is valid. It is just an opinion on that day and in that context. But do listen and read carefully any feedback you are given.
Accept reality – rejection is part of job search. Buttress yourself up against it and keep it in perspective. Don’t start blaming them or yourself for what has happened. But do accept responsibility for your own performance. Accept valid and reasonable criticism, given in good faith.
Know that you are not alone. Every day countless others will be sharing your experience. Sometimes it helps to seek out others and share support. You can also share contacts and job leads. You could find a local job club.
Stay healthy, eat, exercise and spend part of everyday doing something you really enjoy. Upwards and on-wards the right job for you might be just round the next corner.
If you need support from a coach in your job search, I’ll be happy to help.
Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org
Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search – you can find all her books on Amazon at this link