Resilience – do you have an ability to bounce back?
Resilience – a quality that marks out many successful people. And, they seem to have an outstanding ability to bounce back.
Psychological resilience is about how well you deal with stress, resolve problems and handle misfortune. But, no one goes through life without set-backs. Issues that test your ability to bounce back can emerge at work, at home or in your private life. Health and relationship problems and/or financial pressures may need great resilience to handle. So, resilience usually helps you handle and bounce back from misfortune.
Some people seem to be born with this natural ability to bounce back. But, if you are not so lucky, resilience is a skill that can be learned by almost anyone. And, it is strengthened by an optimistic outlook and a positive approach to life. Resilience is about coming out of a deeply stressful situation strengthened; having learned from the experience.
Resilience is best understood as a process.
- Knowing how to analyse what is going on around you
- Making plans to handle the situation
- Having confidence in your ability to carry out your plans
- Knowing how to communicate and get support when you need it
- Handling your strong feelings and emotions.
Resilient people who look for the best in any situation. Those who are prepared to be flexible in their approach and focused on solving problems, seem to be the most resilient. A sense of humour in the face of adversity always helps. Humour seems to improve the immune system. People with perseverance and passion for their long-term goals often manage to overcome huge obstacles on the way.
How to build resilience
The American Psychological Association suggests “10 Ways to Build Resilience.” These are:
- Maintaining good relationships with family and friends
- Avoiding seeing crises or stressful events as unbearable problems
- Learning to accept what cannot be changed
- Developing realistic goals and moving towards them
- Taking decisive actions in adverse situations
- Looking for opportunities for self-discovery after a struggle with loss
- Developing self-confidence
- Keeping a long-term perspective and considering the stressful event in a broader context
- Maintaining a hopeful outlook, expecting good things and visualizing what is wished for
- Taking care of your mind and body, exercising regularly; paying attention to your own needs and feelings.
What if you didn’t get the chance to learn to be resilient when young?
Unfortunately, there can be many circumstances in life which work against developing these characteristics in early life. Luckily, you can take steps to develop your resilience at any time. It is never too early or too late to start learning to bounce.
Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org
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