Successful – Making A Personal Change – Part 3 Be Clear About What Is Troubling You
In the last post in this series I discussed the need to be quite clear about what you need to change. I said you needed to be as specific and detailed as you could in the way you defined the change. Starting with a clear and detailed description has a huge impact on how successful your change might be. And I hope you have now created your description.
Now, you need to start thinking about emotions. No significant change is made without some impact on our emotions. Understanding what they are and knowing how to manage the impact can be key to success.
Troublesome emotions like anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, anger, hurt, jealousy and envy can occur at different times in our lives. They can be associated with lots of different kinds of events. But sometimes they occur when most people would think there should be nothing to worry about. And they can be very difficult to deal with.
You can find one theme and one emotion recurs time and again. It doesn’t actually stop you doing something but it can make it more difficult to do and less satisfying.
Teasing out exactly what the emotion is, is the first step in understanding the thoughts and beliefs behind it. It can be a way to help you gain control of the emotion and make sure things turn out more positively for you in the future.
What do you feel, when you think about the change you have to make? Exactly what emotion is being stirred in you?
Be very honest with yourself. If you need support from a coach in sorting out the emotions that stop you making positive changes, get in touch, my phone number is below.
The next post in this series will be about what aspect of the change is triggering the emotion and why?
If you have tips to share with others about making changes in your life – please get in touch.
The links to the earlier posts in this series are below.
Wendy Mason is a Life and Career Coach. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work and to change career while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at firstname.lastname@example.org
- Be Successful – Making A Personal Change – Part 2 Be Clear About The Change You Want!
- Be Successful – Making A Personal Change – Part 1 Admit A Change is Needed