Be Successful – Making A Personal Change – Part 4 Identify what is most difficult for you
In the last post in this series I asked you to start thinking about emotions and I explained how identifying your troublesome emotion helps you gain control and make sure things turn out more positively for you in the future.
Now, you need to identify what is most difficult for you about the change.
This is important because it helps you get to the root of the problem and so you avoid spending too much time on the peripheral issues. It saves you energy you would have spent dealing with less important aspects of your change. For example, you might feel angry about something that happened last time you tried to make this kind of change. But what really caused you to feel that way?
When you know what it is that is actually causing your big emotion, you can start to develop a more helpful attitude.
Find a little time and a quiet space to go through this exercise. Think about what happened in the past to make you feel this way. Now imagine someone telling you the same story. What advice would you give them? Imagine questioning them about what happened and pressing them to tell you more and more about how it happened until you get right down to the root cause. Now what is that fundamental belief about themselves that is making them feel uncomfortable.
What advice would you give them to help them have a more healthy attitude? Now step into their shoes and think about you having the same experience and how you can now apply the new approach. Practice thinking in this new way.
Success here depends on being very honest with yourself.
If you need support from a coach in sorting out the fundamental belief that is stopping you making positive changes, get in touch, my phone number is below.
The next post in this series will be about setting goals for your change and how to avoid the pitfalls in goal setting.
If you have tips to share with others about making changes in your life – please get in touch.
The links to the earlier posts in this series are below.
Wendy Mason is a Life and Career Coach. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work and to change career while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at firstname.lastname@example.org