Making a Personal Change
Making a Personal Change Successfully
Making a Personal Change – if you are planning to make some personal changes, here are some things to consider.
Take a close look at what you are expecting and how you plan to make the change. Unrealistic expectations could set you up for failure when you try to change. They are usually in the following areas and they are avoidable:
- How much to change: People often think they are capable of changing far more than they really can. As a result, they reject more modest and achievable goals. If you do have to make a large change, break it down into a series of smaller changes for more chance of success. And make sure you reward yourself for each step.
- How quickly and easily you can change: People are often too optimistic about how long it is going to take and how hard it might be! Try to be very realistic in your planning. Be ready to think about obstacles and risks. How you will overcome them? Stay hopeful – you can get there. But perhaps in smaller steps.
- The effects of change on other parts of your life: People often overestimate how much they can improve their lives with just one kind of change. Be very realistic about what is going to change and how the other parts of your life might be effected. Think carefully about the effects of your change on the other people in your life. They shouldn’t stop you making a positive change but you may need to prepare them and to offer support.
- Learning from change: People often miss out because they don’t realise that you can learn a lot from making each change. You may well even enjoy parts of the change. You can then apply the learning from this change to other changes you would like to make.
Making a Personal Change – Stay Positive
If you can take these points on board and avoid unrealistic expectations, you give yourself a better chance at success. Remember to stay positive and don’t be afraid to ask for help, if you need it, from friends and family – even perhaps a life coach like me.
So, go forward with hope. Believe in yourself and your plans for change. Reaffirm that you have the motivation and perseverance to achieve your goals. Remind yourself of all the benefits you will be able to enjoy.
Remember to be realistic in your expectations of the change. This will help you to be patient with yourself when things are going slowly. It will encourage you when thing don’t go as smoothly as you first thought.
With positive, but realistic, self-belief and realistic plans, you really can become the person you want to be.
Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org
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